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Posted January 10th, 2025

How I helped my dog deal with anxiety when I'm out

Leaving your dog alone can be stressful for both you and your furry friend, especially if they suffer from separation anxiety. After experiencing this with my dog, I discovered several effective strategies to help ease their anxiety when I'm out. Here are the tips and tools that made a difference:

  1. Create a Safe Space

    Designating a comfortable and safe space for your dog can significantly reduce their anxiety. I set up a cozy corner with their bed, favorite toys, and a blanket that smells like me. This gave my dog a sense of security and familiarity.
  2. Desensitization Training

    Desensitization involves gradually getting your dog used to being alone. I started by leaving for short periods and gradually increased the time. Pairing departures with positive experiences, like treats or puzzle toys, helped my dog associate my leaving with something enjoyable.
  3. Interactive Toys and Puzzles

    Interactive toys and puzzle feeders kept my dog mentally stimulated and distracted while I was away. These toys provided entertainment and helped to alleviate boredom, which is often a trigger for anxiety.
  4. Background Noise

    Leaving the TV or radio on provided background noise that made my dog feel less alone. I often played calming music or nature sounds, which had a soothing effect on my dog.
  5. Exercise Before Leaving

    A tired dog is a calm dog. Ensuring my dog got plenty of exercise before I left the house made a big difference. A long walk or a vigorous play session helped burn off excess energy and made them more likely to relax while I was gone.
  6. Gradual Departures and Arrivals

    Keeping departures and arrivals low-key helped prevent anxiety spikes. I avoided overly emotional goodbyes and greetings, which can heighten a dog’s anxiety. Instead, I calmly left and returned home without making a big fuss.

  7. Comfort Items

    Leaving behind an item of clothing with my scent on it provided comfort to my dog. The familiar smell helped reduce anxiety and reassured them that I would be coming back.

  8. Training and Commands

    Teaching my dog basic commands like "stay" and "relax" helped manage their anxiety. Consistent training provided a sense of structure and stability, which is crucial for anxious dogs.
  9. Calming Products

    There are various calming products available, such as anxiety wraps, calming sprays, and pheromone diffusers. I found that a calming vest worked wonders for my dog, providing gentle pressure that mimicked a hug and eased their anxiet
  10. Professional Help

    If your dog's anxiety is severe, seeking professional help from a veterinarian or a dog behaviorist is essential. They can offer tailored advice and, if necessary, prescribe medication to help manage your dog's anxiety.

Conclusion

Helping a dog with anxiety takes patience and consistency. By creating a safe space, using desensitization training, providing mental stimulation, and exploring various calming strategies, I was able to significantly reduce my dog's anxiety when I was out. Every dog is unique, so it may take some experimentation to find what works best for your furry friend.

Remember, the key is to stay calm and consistent – your dog will pick up on your energy and feel more secure.Feel free to share your experiences and any tips that worked for you in the comments below. Together, we can help our dogs feel more comfortable and secure when we’re not around.